This is my
response to a woman who feels her husband works too much and neglects the home
front
Many
marriages suffer because both spouses have pre-conceived ideas of who/what
their spouse should be like. Any weakness that we haven't dealt with personally
is usually amplified in marriage.
Also, the
enemy understands how potent a union of 2 believers is. He'll do what he can to
bring division. I believe deliverance comes when 1) You choose to yield your
members to God and be His instrument of peace.
2) You recognize that it is the devil, not your spouse, that is the
enemy and you engage him in the battle using the weapons of our warfare. 3) You
let go of your preconceived notions and you prayerfully and consciously
befriend and adapt to your husband.
I pray that
the counsel I am about to give meets you in the right frame of mind.
You are
right about your husband neglecting you. Your concern is valid. The manner
you're addressing the very valid concern, however, is not fantastic.
You cannot
change anyone - your husband, your children, your neighbours etc. That is not
within the jurisdiction that God has given us as individuals. What we have with
people, particularly our husbands, is influence. What we should aim for is to
increase our influence. That is what makes it seem like you can change anyone.
What you desire is really more influence with your husband. The fact is that
something in the office has more influence on him than you do. The solution to
the issue is increasing your influence.
Prayer is a
great avenue for increasing your influence with your husband. As you pray for
him (even if you start with 'Change him'), God begins to open your eyes to
areas where YOU need to change. Believe me, as you make those changes, your
life will be better and richer. As you continue to pray and make the necessary
changes, you'll begin to see changes in him. Why? The changes in you will make
YOU more attractive to him (there'll be something about you that makes you
attractive to him). Also, your prayers for him go to the God of marriage who
created him. God will begin to order the right people and resources to him
that'll turn his heart back home (so many testimonies including personal
testimonies have led me to this conclusion). Eventually, the hold of WHATEVER it
is that is keeping him back at work (it could be the fear of failure) will be
broken and you'll get him back.
I recommend
that you get the following books
- The Power
of a Praying Wife
- The Power
of a Praying Wife Devotional
They are
both written by Stormie Omartian. There are recommended prayers in there
that'll guide you on how to pray for your husband.
It is well
with you, my sister. 
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